Growing From Heartbreak.
Heartbreak is hard. My last relationship felt a bit like kicking my heart through broken glass. I stayed in it longer than I should and it was brutal. But as with everything, there are positives that I have taken from it, and these are those.
Trying to manage all of the emotion that I was feeling drew me back to meditation. This is now part of my daily self-care practice and the benefits are endless. I wrote about it here.
I’m so much more closely aligned to my intuition. I now recognise how it feels in my body when I’m doing something that is out of alignment and I’m more confident that with the wisdom I’ve gained, I will listen.
I now know that I need someone with the backbone to stand up for me and for us. This is a non-negotiable for any future relationship.
My sh*tty relationship led me to meditation which in turn led me to sobriety. I am a much better person without alcohol in my life and I have achieved so much in all the reclaimed hours. I’m back in touch with my heart and my creativity. I’ve started a business, I’ve made new connections and taken steps towards a new life.
Due to the unavailability of my previous partner; I started travelling alone. This is a gift. What could be better than completely chilling out in a beautiful place with no one to answer to but yourself?
I ran into the fire. OK, it didn’t work out and it was obvious that it wouldn’t. It was stupid and reckless and anyone could’ve foretold the ultimate result. But for a time, I was whole-heart in. It didn’t work but I was vulnerable and I took a chance . I dared greatly.
I don’t think that I am fully ‘over’ my attraction to unavailability – I’m a work in progress. However, I am much better at spotting positive, healthy attraction rather than wound-attraction. If you are in a wound-mate relationship at the moment, or in the process of an ending – I feel you. I know how hard it is and how painful but please know; it gets better, you get better, and there will be good that comes from even the darkest situation. Sending you all my love.
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